I am Resilience

I am a virtue.

I am the main reason when you get knocked down…you will not stay down.

I am elastic.

I have the capacity to help you recover from difficulties.

And once I recover you…I come back even stronger to support you.

I will not let failure overcome you.

I regulate your emotions.

I exist only to provide you with clarity.

I will not let you quit.

Even after misfortune, I will show you how to soldier on.

I can change the course of your future.

I can show you how to adapt to abrupt changes.

Adversity is something I expect from life, and I am unafraid of the future.

I accept that fear is a part of life, and will help you face your fears.

I will help you build skill to get you through hardships.

Once you make me a part of your life I will not leave you.

I will take the pain out of loss and turn it into motivation.

I am your most supportive habit.

My goal is for you to persevere.

I will be your hero if you will be a champion of my cause.

My cause is you.

I am resilience.

The outside world is full of rejection…the better you are at brushing it off the better off you will be.

Rejection is not real. 

Rejection is a story of one person not quite ready to catch what another person is pitching.

Rejection is not an excuse to quit.


What you seek is seeking you

Feeling a deep need to predict the future freezes some of us in the mental misery of the “what if” game.

This can apply to many situations.

Maybe the person you loved was self-destructive and hurt you so deeply during a vulnerable period of your life that the experience has left you traumatized and has paralyzed your ability to trust.

Maybe in order to keep growing professionally you will have to disrupt other people’s dependance on you.

The decisions and leaps of faith you make are yours. 

No one on earth can judge you on the way you make a decision unless you allow them.

The world may respond in a way that makes you feel judged but that is only valid so far as you allow it to be.

Your own past can so easily become what you analytically judge the character of others on rather than letting your Emotional intuition preside over your judgment. This, of course, can work in reverse if you are more the intuitive persuasion.

Those with deep emotional intuition allow their heart to make an emotional decision when it comes to the big calls in life.

I won’t debate which method of decision making is better because I can’t.

You are the judge and the jury of what you decide to do.


Likely, you will need both your head and your heart to start talking openly about their communication problems.

There is a reason we think and feel with both our heads and our hearts.


Full disclosure and pure probability: 

I know that despite how hard we try we all will continue to fail sometime.

Silver lining:

“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill

Here is what you may find helpful:

The future is not this far off place we arrive at one day and proclaim “ok here we are in the future”.

The future is today.

Inside every decision you make in the present, you are inside of the future.

There is no predicting the future and there is no arrival date.

What you seek is seeking you.

There is only the doing and the deciding in the right now.

Every now moment is the future.

You are living the future you created out of the decisions you made yesterday.

The future we desire is what we do with today.

All of these actions track to our current state and the current state is the future we have made given every single situation we have been a part of before today.

Food for thought: 

Do not let yourself become sidetracked by secondary activity.

Secondary activity is anything that does not positively influence the day-like worrying.

The definition of worry is experiencing failure and disappointment in advance.

There is no magic wand to tell you how your life will end up.

If you maximize the enjoyment and good you can do in the now and truly be generous at heart- the rest will take care of itself.

You have greatness within you.

Find the thing that allows you to quiet your mind and you will experience a well of energy inside of you that you won’t be able to explain.

Continue moving forward.

Get up when you fall.

Do it with enthusiasm.

#strikeamatch #thoughtsbecomethings #howtodecide

Second gear

Some people stay in first gear for the duration of their lives.
Waiting for someone to tell them when to shift.
Waiting for someone to tell them it is their turn.

The truth: You are the driver.
You control the speed.
Your future is under the hood just like the motor in a car.
Just waiting on the gas.

Your ambition is your permission.
Let that be your fuel.

If you want more.
Do more.
Hit the gas…


The Traditional Story of New Year’s

Soon we will put 2018 on our documents and it will feel new.

Why does the conclusion of one calendar for the beginning of another hold so much of our attention?

Why do we anticipate coming of a new year with such hopeful possibility?

Is this time of year more magical in its influence over us than any other time?

Of course!

But why?

The Decision:

Reality exists in your mind before you will see it in your life.

We have nominated the coming of a new year as special in our culture.

We have decided to make it special.

The New Decision:

What if you didn’t reserve this positive outlook for one time of year?

What if you decided that every day you would feel the newness of the traditional New Years optimism?

Is it possible to think this way?


Here is the truth:

You can.

You can start every day with the same refreshed perception of your future.

It is as simple as deciding to practice being optimistic and energetic.

Here is the mindset:

Every hour is new.

Every day and every minute.

Why celebrate just once a year?

What good is it?

Why isn’t it enough to say we are always in a position to do what we want?

I believe it is enough and I believe you deserve to feel powerful every day.

The new year starts in September, March, April, January and other months depending on the culture you observe.

Do we magically change as a human that day?

No, we don’t.

We can be better as we go.

Here is a darker and more urgent truth about life:

It ends.

The best New Years resolution goals live in the graveyard. Unrealized dreams because they were always put off for the new year.

You are alive.

Take a hold of your every day and race it until nightfall.

Take control of your goals by acting on them.

Know that a goal is just a dream unless you act.

The Motto:

The happiest I have ever been is now.

I am my own boss.

I own my decisions.

I accept the challenges that come as part of my journey.

I have decided not need a new year.

I have accepted being in a constant state of gratitude because it is the way to greatness.

I have no competition outside of myself.

I am in control of my journey because I can always make different decisions.

I steer the course.

Today and every day.

Soon we will put 2018 on our documents.

Happy New Years will be said.
Resolutions will be made.

Resolutions will broken…but not by you.


#cdmthinktank  #byoalpha

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